Questions for reflection from Never Be Lonely Again: The Way Out of Emptiness, Isolation, and a Life Fulfilled by Pat Love and Jon Carlson. The book is available through the lending library.
"How do you spend your free time? What activity inspires you? What do you anticipate that also makes you feel good about yourself? What do you do easily that improves the lives of others? What do people thank you for that seems to take hardly any effort at all or is even a pleasure for you? The answers to these questions may reflect your purpose in life. Remember that your purpose in life does not have to include being paid to do it.
"If you are still unclear or want to further clarify your purpose, let us pose more questions to sharpen your awareness. Wat are your aspirations? What do you daydream about for the years ahead? Five years from now, what do you think you will wish you had done? What would you do if you knew you could not fail at it? What could you do that would make you proud of yourself? What could you do that would show that you were living a life in line with your core values?
"Taking a different perspective, we ask the following: How do you fill your physical space? What objects are important to you? What might someone who walked through your home say about you? What might he or she say is important to the person living there?
"How do you spend your time? How much is for work? For fun? For maintenance? How much of your time are you alone? How much are you with other people? Ar you comfortable with your friends?
"How do you spend your energy? What things do you feel you must do each day? What are you never too tired to do? What excites you?
"How do you spend your money? Would you be seen as frivolous, tight, or generous? Are you more of a saver or a spender?
"In what area of life are you most organizes? In what area are you least organized? Does this need to change?
"When are you most self-disciplined? What activities do you do well, and which ones can you just barely get done? Do you life to be in groups, or do you prefer individual pursuits?
"What do you think about? What do you visualize? What do you talk to yourself about? What do you talk to others about? How would your life be different if you had the education or training you desired?
"What about you inspires others? What do you stand for? What is your attitude toward life? In what ways do you contribute to the community?
"If you had one day to live, what would you do? What do you want your obituary to say about you?
"What are your goals? Assume for a moment that your purpose in life is quite evident, but you just have to see it. What is the obvious answer to the questions, 'What is your purpose in life?'" (pp 172-3)